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Q&A Topics - Pet play versus Furries, Feminist and Submissive, Slave or submissive

We hope that we bring you many new and insightful things and inspire you to think outside your own box! This week's post touches three very different subjects: #Petplay versus Furries, Feminist and Submissive, Slave or submissive - is one better than the other.

Question #1) "I am wondering if pets are the same as #furries. I read about the furry convention in which someone set off a smoke bomb in the hotel where the event was taking place. Some were kittens, puppies, etc. In BDSM are the pets that some Dominants have also furries in that they act and dress like the small animal that the Dominant has identified?"

The #furry #genre (sometimes referred to as a meta-genre) is based on the idea of fantasy animal characters, rather than any one type of fiction. Any title in any form of media can be considered relative to the furry genre simply by having a fantasy animal character in it. Such characters are most often seen in cartoons, comics, science fiction, allegorical novels, Gothic horror movies, commercials and video games. People like to dress up as one of these characters and take on that personality while hiding who they really are.

Pet Play or #Animal #roleplay may be either a non-sexual or an erotic sexual role-play (when it may also be called petplay, #ponyplay, ponyism or pup-play). In its erotic sexual role-play form, one or more of the participants takes on the role of a real or imaginary animal in character, including appropriate mannerisms and behavior, and sometimes a partner will act as another animal or in a sexual context may take the role of rider, trainer, or caretaker (or even breeding partner).

I have never seen the two #subcultures mixed. Those who practice #BDSM Pet Play are normally solely in that role while those who are in to the Furry Culture usually participate solely in that role. While there are undoubtedly some people who dabble in both scenes, they do not mix and are completely separate. 

Question #2) "I am a modern woman. I take care of myself just fine. I work, pay my bills, and have always made my own way. But, when I read the erotica BDSM #books, I want a relationship like that. Can I have that and still maintain who I am?"

The answer lies within yourself. It depends on what type of relationship you are looking for exactly. Do you want the kink that most of the #erotic books detail out or are you looking for something deeper that would make you a #submissive in other instances of your life, other than just during sex? I encourage you to read #blog posts from real life submissives and try to start understanding what their role is exactly and also really ask yourself what you really want from a relationship. That is the only way you will be able to decide if you want to maintain some kind of interdependence or if you want to explore a deeper form of #submission.

Question #3) "Are #slave submissives better than just plain submissives?"

The first thing I would say is that there is no such thing as a 'plain submissive'. There are so many levels, layers, and forms to submission that you can't begin to say one is better than another. A slave is just a deeper form of submission than a submissive. It is not better or worse in any way, just different. If you want to be a submissive, you should not focus on what category you think you fit into, but focus instead on what you want and expect out of a D/s relationship. 

I hope you have gained some new knowledge or insight in to the above subjects and add to your own wealth of knowledge. If you have anything to add to the above conversation, please leave a comment!

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