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What’s the Difference Between Edging and Edge Play?

What is the difference between Edging and Edge Play? We hear these terms often around the BDSM community, but how many actually understand exactly what they are? Hopefully, after reading this post, you will have gained better, or perhaps diverse, understanding.


#Edging is an orgasm control #sexual technique that may be practiced either alone or with a partner and involves the maintenance of a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period of time without reaching #climax.

Benefits of Edging

Longer Sexual Encounters – Edging can allow for partners to prolong sexual encounters by having control over their own or their partner’s orgasm timing.

Longer Intensity – While lasting sexual encounters can be great, it’s also about the quality of the experience. Edging allows for prolonged high levels of pleasure and stimulation.

Simultaneous Orgasms – Some people use this technique to be able to time their orgasms with their partners. This can work for intercourse, mutual masturbation, or even remote sexual encounters.

More Powerful Orgasms – Men and women who have learned to stay at the edge find their orgasms to be stronger, more powerful and intense than ever before.

More Semen Volume and Distance#Edge #play can increase the amount of semen produced with orgasm delay because more ejaculate accumulates.

Power Play – One form of edging play, orgasm control, can be a great way to take control of your partner’s body and make them do exactly what you want them to do. Tease and denial is when you only let your partner orgasm when you are ready for them to. You might get them close to the edge over and over again until they beg you to let them orgasm.

When practiced alone, orgasm control is beneficial for heightening sexual #pleasure as well as a training tool which permits the practitioner to increase the duration of sex with a partner. For the female, because there is little or no post-orgasm reflection period, the practitioner can enjoy direct sexual stimulation for longer periods of time, as well as with increased #frequency and #intensity.

For the male, the speed of the #rubbing or #stroking of the penis may vary to navigate right to the edge of ejaculation. With orgasm control, a male can experience a longer or more intense orgasm, as well as a larger volume of semen expelled during his ejaculation. Because solo #masturbation allows for precise control over the feelings, the timing, and the speed of stimulation, many people practice orgasmic control by themselves.


In BDSM, #edgeplay is a subjective term for activity (sexual or mentally manipulative) that may challenge the conventional S.S.C. (safe, sane and consensual) scheme; if one is aware of the risks and consequences and is willing to accept them, then the activity is considered #RACK (risk-aware consensual kink).

Edgeplay may result in very risky consequences of short or long term harm or even death. The most used activities are breathplay (erotic asphyxiation), fire play, knife play, fear play, temperature play, wax play and gunplay, as well as the potential of increased risk of disease when there is bodily fluid exchange, such as with cutting, bloodplay, or #barebacking.

Precautions To Edgeplay

1. It is a very personal thing. Always make sure that you are pushing your own boundaries and that it’s because you want to do so. Don’t allow yourself to be pushed so far over your limits that mental or physical harm may occur.

2. Remember to use your safeword if necessary! If you encounter someone that says “You won’t have safewords, you will be tortured and humiliated as I see fit…”, these people are not edge players, they are sociopaths with lifetime subscriptions to torture porn websites. Do not play with these types of individuals!

3. Negotiate your scenes beforehand in a neutral environment. If at any point you are worried that the other party is not going to be taking your needs, wants and your hard limits into account, then you are well within your rights to walk away.

Individuals that practice and play should have the knowledge and presence of mind before participating in any activities. The appropriateness for more dangerous or taboo-themed activities varies by individual, due to differences in moralities as well as trust between participants and experience.

The only consistent rule of edgeplay is that activities must not be coercive, deceitful, or injurious without prior agreement or knowledge. This excludes how others may react to the outcome of the activity if they go beyond what can be handled by the partners.

With either activity, aftercare should be given immediately once a scene or play has finished. To learn more, read about aftercare here.

Thank you for reading and following!

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Aug 16, 2019

Oh! This makes a lot of sense. I knew of the difference between these things of course, but I didn't realise that the names were that close together. I kinda thought that edge play just meant playing with edging lol... How silly of me.

Nov 07, 2021
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I agree with this response. It emphasizes the importance of boundaries and consent communicated throughout the experience.

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